First, let me just marvel at the fact that my due date is exactly 1 week from today. We are T-7 days. Well, that is if noodle girl decides to come on time. But all the same, so crazy. I really cannot believe how quickly my pregnancy has gone by.
Moving on. Lately the question everyone seems to be asking me is, “What is your labor and delivery plan?” And I’ve quickly learned that everyone has an opinion on this subject, whether they have had a baby or not. And they are more than happy and willing to share that opinion with you, whether you ask them to or not.
Sometimes it shocks me just how opinionated some woman are on this subject. The other day at work an employee asked me if I planned on having an epidural during labor. I answered honestly that I would love to avoid one if I can, but I’m just going to wait and see what happens. She (very heatedly) told me that it was “stupid” to avoid an epidural. As she put it, “You know you’re not going to get a gold medal for avoiding pain meds, right? It’s like women who have natural labor think they deserve a trophy or something.” And, although I just smiled and nodded at her comment, I did feel like telling her that I would be giving myself a freakin’ huge gold medal in my mind if I can get through labor without pain meds, and that would be totally enough for me.
Brett and I have talked about what our “plan” is for delivery and we have both agreed that the number one priority is getting baby our safely. That’s our plan. At the end of labor I would like to hold my sweet girl in my arms, regardless of whatever means we go through to get her out. Now that doesn’t mean that I don’t think about how I would LIKE my labor and delivery process to go. Obviously I would like to avoid a C-section if possible and if I can go through labor without any pain medications, that would be awesome. But did I write it all down in a report form to be handed to every nurse, midwife and doctor that will come into the room? No, I did not. Because when it comes down to it, I know that I can’t force control over how my labor and delivery goes (as much as my type A personality wishes it could). I am more than happy to let my body do what it’s supposed to do. And if a certain intervention is needed, I trust that my body will tell me that as well.
Because, let’s be honest, at the end of the day I’m not going to care if I had an epidural or pitocin or a c-section, etc. All I’m going to care about is our sweet little girl coming into our arms and making my heart complete. And that’s enough of a birth plan for me.