A baby shower

I hosted the cutest little baby shower for one of my best friends and her sweet baby boy-to-be! It’s a little insane right now-with three babies due back-to-back-to-back, but I’m so glad we got to pause everything and throw Katie a shower for her little Colby, because she sure does deserve it! We had a blast decorating bibs, playing a few games (Anyone ever done The Price is Right, Baby Edition? I think it’s one of my favorites!) and eating wayyy too much delicious food. Leah was hilarious the whole time, thinking she was just one of the girls, as she sat there and quietly decorated her bib and then watched Katie open all of her gifts. I love that sweet little girl of mine! Now we are just counting down the weeks until November 3rd! Can’t wait to snuggle that sweet little boy of hers!

South Florida Child Life Conference

This years FACLP conference was held in south, sunny Miami! Our staff was so lucky because our hospital was able to send all 8 of our specialists to the conference. This was my first child life conference (I’ve been dying to attend a national conference, but haven’t made it to one yet) so I was pretty excited to go and hear all the great presentations!

The FACLP conference did NOT disappoint. First off, let’s just talk about the food and location. Held in the gorgeous Westin Colonnade, we were nothing if not comfortable the whole weekend. And the food!! Man did they feed us well. When I arrived Saturday morning I was greeted by a table of freshly made fruit smoothies. And is there anything better in the morning than being greeted by freshly made smoothies?! Right then and there I knew it was going to be a good weekend. And when they ended the conference with a “make your own ice cream bar?”

photoLet’s just say that I left happy.

Moving beyond the food, because I promise we did more than eat. The conference was split into numerous sessions, 6 of which we signed up for a few weeks prior. 3 sessions on Saturday and 3 sessions on Sunday. Although all sessions had something great about them, I’ll make note of 2 of my favorite sessions, the first on Saturday and the other on Sunday.

My first session on Saturday was entitled “Companioning through the Wilderness of Grief,” presented by 3 specialists from All Children’s Hospital. This session was eye opening. As child life specialists, I believe we all know our weaknesses and mine is definitely bereavements. I’m an outpatient girl, having worked in Radiology/Ambulatory and now Outpatient Surgical, so bereavements are not something I deal with on a normal basis. From time to time one of us, myself included, gets called to the adult ICU to help with an adult bereavement (when there are children involved in the family situation) and I find my heart racing a little with nerves every time I walk into that ICU. When someone passes away, and we as child life specialists are there to be the person of comfort for the family, it’s hard to not do what we can to try our hardest to take away some of that pain the family is feeling. We use phrases like, “You will get through this” and “What can I do to help?” because we are not always sure what else to do or what else to say. But during the presentation (which was based on the book “The Handbook for Companioning the Mourner” by Dr. Alan D. Wolfelt- now on my to read list) they shared this quote: “Companioning is about going to the wilderness of the soul with another human being; it is not about thinking you are responsible for finding the way out.” How enlightening is that?! All the time I struggle with “but what do I say!?” and the answer is, sometimes you don’t have to say anything. You may just need to sit silently with the family, a pillar of support, but no words are needed. We are so trained when it comes to how to talk to kids about death, but yet sometimes, we need to forget the words and just be silent! Definitely a skill I will be working on in the future.

The second session I loved was on Sunday. It was entitled “I have been here for 2 weeks! Now What? Child Life Interventions throughout their pediatric care,” presented by 2 specialists from Yale-New Haven Children’s Hospital. This session was just chock full of AMAZING intervention ideas and we all left ready to implement new interventions with our own patients. This is a very common struggle for many child life specialists. We have those frequent flyers and/or patients that stay for a LOOOONNNGG time and we struggle to come up with new and interesting ideas for what we can do with those patients. We get stuck in a rut, and also stuck in our common teaching and prep ways, and it can be intimidating to try new things. But this session encouraged me to think outside the box and I definitely have some new ideas for my surgical teachings! 🙂

So, all in all, a great conference and I’m so happy I had the opportunity to attend!

How to Land a Child Life Internship

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Who wouldn’t want to be one of us??

This blog gets a lot of traffic from women (because, let’s be honest, it’s always women) who are interested in the field of child life. I get it, unfortunately there are not a ton of child life resources out there, so I feel privileged when people seek out my blog and email me with all their child life questions. I love getting these emails and I’m always so happy and willing to help out in any way I possibly can. Have a question about the field? Just ask! There’s nothing a child life specialist loves more than preaching about the field to another potential child life-er.

All that to say, these past few weeks I have received a LOT of emails from women who are thinking or currently applying to child life internships around the country. Since hospitals all over are currently accepting intern applications for spring semester, many girls seem to have questions about the application and interview process. So with that in mind I figured, why not write a post about it!? So for all of you potential child lifers out there, this one’s for you.

How to Land a Child Life Internship:

1. Seek out a child life practicum first. Although completing a child life practicum is not required prior to applying for an internship, it will definitely give you a heads up over the competition. We get a LOT of applications each semester and honestly those who have completed a practicum stand out above those who did not. It shows initiative and a commitment to the field of child life and it lets us know that you have experienced a small dose of the amazing-ness that is child life and you now want to come back for more.

2. Be different. Let’s be real for a second, most girls who are interested in child life have very similar looking resumes. A degree in child development, family studies or psychology? check! 100 or more volunteer hours at a children’s hospital? check! (obviously..since this is a prereqrisite for the internship..) Side jobs babysitting/nannying/working at a summer camp? check! An essay stating their love for children since a very early age? check check!! I get it, you all love kids, you work with kids, kids are awesome. But sometimes, you’ve got to do more to really stand out. And guess what, it can still have to do with kids. An internship or job at a children’s foundation like Kids Wish, Starlight or Make a Wish? Awesome. Experience working with at-risk organizations such as Youth In Distress or Invisible Children? Wonderful. Sometimes it’s refreshing and impressive to see someone who has experience beyond the cookie cutter norm.

3. Proof read your application. I know, it sounds silly. Should I even have to say that?? Sadly, yes. Every semester we receive 20-30 applicants for our internship program. Out of those 20-30 we interview 10. Out of those 10 we pick 2. So how do we narrow down the applicants to choose which 10 candidates to interview? We use a very detailed check list and point system based on your application. The 10 applicants that receive the highest score move on to the interview process. Yes, we are looking at your GPA, your volunteer and/or practicum experience and your references, but we are also looking at how well you answer the application short essay questions. And yes, we are mostly looking at your knowledge and understanding of what a child life specialist’s role is in the hospital setting, but even if you write the most amazing child life philosophy I have ever read, I’m going to be way too distracted by your horrible grammar and spelling mistakes to even notice.

4. Sell yourself. I know a lot of times it can be awkward to brag about yourself during your interview, but guess what, now’s your only time to tell us why we should pick you. We phone interview all of our potential interns (since they are applying from all over the country) and we ask them 10 questions. So you have 10 questions to sell yourself and that’s it. When I am interviewing a candidate and she is going on and on about the child life club she started at her college or the research project she completed to help better distraction in the ER, I’m not sitting there thinking, “shut up about yourself already.” Instead I’m frantically writing it all down so I can share it with the rest of my team. I once asked a candidate what she thought she could bring to our team. What new initiatives could she think of that would better our practice of child life and she said “I don’t know.” You don’t know?? Be creative! Make something up!! Do I even need to say that she didn’t get picked?

5. Don’t be afraid to admit what you don’t know. You’re coming to us, bright eyed with your excitement for child life, fresh off of 100 hours volunteering under a child life department and maybe a few hundred practicum hours. So yes, we know you don’t know everything. If you did, then why the heck would you need an internship? Because of this, if you are asked a question during your interview, such as “Please describe in detail how you would prep a child for an EEG,” don’t be afraid to say, “Honestly, I’m not sure what an EEG is, can you please let me know and then I’ll do my best to tell you how I would prepare a child for one?” instead of pretending like you know exactly what I’m talking about while at the same time giving me a super vague answer such as, “So I would tell them about the procedure and use medical play to help explain the procedure and answer any questions they have about their..umm…procedure….” It doesn’t take a genius to figure out that you have no flippin’ idea what an EEG is. Points will be given if you are honest and just ASK! Points will immediately be taken away if you are too afraid or proud to ask for help.

6. Know your developmental theorists. And I’m not just talking about Erikson and Piaget. I get that we all learned about those 2 in high school and they’ve been pounded into our heads ever since. There’s probably a (very) good chance that you will be asked about other theorists and, even if you aren’t, talking about Bowlby’s theory of attachment and how this could be used to explain the effects of a long term hospitalization on a child’s attachment to their parents and/or the hospital staff is bound to look good. So yes, Erikson’s stages of development are important in explaining appropriate activities for each age group, but let’s not forget about Watson, Bandura, Vygotsky, Kohlberg…

7. Know your hospital. Getting an internship is VERY competitive, sometimes even more so than securing a child life job, so we get that you are most likely applying to multiple internships and that is completely understandable and smart of you to do. However, at the end of the interview you will most likely be asked, “So what questions do you have for me?” Have questions! And the more you know about the specific hospital you are applying for, the better. For example, “I saw that your hospital is the only children’s hospital in South Florida that has a full time pet therapy program. How do you feel this has benefited your patients and families?” That shows initiative. That shows that you found our hospital, researched our hospital, and decided that THIS was the hospital that you wanted to intern at. Maybe it’s because of a hospital’s music therapy program, maybe it’s because they have the largest child life program in the state, maybe it’s because they presented an interesting case study at a child life conference you attended, whatever it is, ask about it! I once asked a candidate, “So do you have any questions for me about our program?” and she legit answered, “What hospital is this again??” Umm yeah…let’s just end this here.

So there you have it; 7 steps to help you secure a child life internship. Can I promise you success? Unfortunately not, but I can promise that if you follow this advice you will present yourself as a strong, capable internship candidate that any hospital would be lucky to have!

Good luck!

*And as always, if you any further questions please feel free to leave a comment or contact me!